Story 1: How psychology got me
Updated: Nov 22, 2020
“May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears.” — Mandela
I was fresh out of high school and wanted to be a chef as I had grew fond of cooking. I was all cocooned up in my naïveté and was waiting for a angel to come and rescue me to the admissions desk at a college.
It was time now that I applied to some colleges for formal education to start, as it is the only road to success in India and that a degree in hand can lead you to a life of wisdom and happiness. Nothing else matters, you don't have to love the work you do you just have to do it. (sarcasm)
So the family sat for dinner one night and my father saw me wasting time doing nothing at all, asked me what my plans were for the DEGREE. Me all excited for becoming a chef told him. He did not react as he knew that I was in my own bubble, told me in the politest manner possible that lets talk about the real degree. I was all agitated and as angry as a teen could be to his father. He told me to ponder over it and come back with a real plan.
The choices we get to make are already made for us. I went online and searched for the degrees that I could do and found that I didn't have many options and it all narrowed down to Bachelors in Arts. The subject options I had were only three English, Economics and Psychology. I could't take economics as I knew that I would not do justice to the subject with the abilities I had, next was English, I was not able find a suitable career option in english for myself. The choice I was left with was psychology.
I took humanities as a subject in high school and was left with the above choices and this was when I realised that what about the people who took science in school and wynd up with engineering or doctor as their career options, when they could have been bartender or make up artist.
Today I don't regret the decisions that were made then but I don't seem to be too happy either.
The question is 'Is everything happening destiny?' or 'Do we make the rules here?'
"Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and freedom." — Viktor Frankl